Early last week I sat in the shade of a cottonwood that leans east towards the sediment tinged flow of Green River, cool in a thin sun cover and bikini, refusing to layer up because this is the closest I'll probably come after a chilly winter in the mountains to lazing on the beach. It's in between seasons in our resort town and that means neither my husband or I are back to work yet, so we went on vacation with some friends in the desert near the town that bears the name of the river that sustains it.
The husbands were out riding dirt bikes and the ladies had just completed the shuttle back to retrieve the truck from our earlier launch in town. We rode stand up paddle boards eight miles from there to our camp, underneath a rail road bridge, in the shadow of I-70, choosing one channel of the braided channels over another, enjoying the landscape, the water's flow and each other's company. My friend's dog is along for the trip, sitting, standing and occasionally leaping into the water, adorned in her doggie life jacket and her fur kinked with wet. Of the three of us, I am the only one who has fallen into the river... three times.
Today we drove down the dirt track that heads through the sandstone remnants of what used to be the sea. The irony: here in this driest of places - with an annual rainfall average of 10" - everything around us reflects millions of years of oceans moving in and out, leaving behind monoliths and ranges, each formed from aggregation and erosion. The wind carves the landscape, as over time it shifts shape and form, and yet we can still see the echos of the arcs of the waves that used to be here, so long ago, when we walk across rock scalloped by the ebbing waters.
This desert is a revelation of evolution. You can see time in frozen slices, the starts and stops of events that appear catastrophic to human eyes, with their limited scope of vision, but these might simply be the equivalent of cells in their expansion, contraction and multiplication. What we see is what we notice, of course, and what I notice is the beauty, the austere perfection of apparent desolation that in fact harbors a surprising quantity and diversity of life, lizards, hawks, globemallow and evening primrose in bloom.
I cannot imagine how any person can believe that the earth is younger than ten thousand years old. Is it because our eyes and minds can see a century at most, and we can't imagine a planet that doesn't contain us? The river flows and in it swim ancient creatures we can only dream about, the river meanders along whatever path it chooses - and we see the evidence of its path through the ages - the river drifts over its bed and it will do so long past two women and a dog have left this plane of existence.
Thursday, April 30, 2015
Saturday, April 18, 2015
Trade off
This is the first summer in five years that my partner and I will live in a house with right angle walls, separate rooms and a working bathtub instead of in the classic Airstream we called casa sweet casa in Jackson, Wyoming. After three years away we moved back to this little northern New Mexico town - no passports required, just a love for chili (red or green), sage brush and quirkiness - in the hopes that we could stretch out into a house. Our home, one we could settle into, sink down roots as we plant trees, build a garden, create a place to connect with community around a huge kitchen table, make art and hopefully babies, a nest but also a launch pad for future adventures. A place we could sink our money into and see it in return as time leads us toward those golden years when our hair is white and our steps slowed, when the rocking chair is more appealing than the chair lift and ski slope. I'm talking about a long time from now...
We've started to house shop and so far that dream place hasn't revealed itself, at least not in the price range we can afford. Our town shares similar economic circumstances to that of many a resort town in the US - high prices in the real estate market due to the large number of vacation homes and rentals, the desirable land priced high at over $100,000 an acre, and a job market that mainly consists of service oriented positions - and yet the appeal of living here still seems to outweigh the challenges. Here you can ski, mountain bike, hike, run the river, etc, and enjoy the mountains, gorge, mesa, forest, etc, while eating delectable food in the company of a diverse range of people who speak myriad languages, all in this small town with its expansive atmosphere.
Jackson had almost as much appeal, and certainly a better wage, but there didn't appear to be a way to stay long term that included home ownership, not when affordable housing means a two bedroom condo that costs $300,000, or the commute from the suburbs is either 45 minutes away and/or over a 10,000 feet pass with 10% grades. Although the American psyche might have the daily commute hard wired into it, I feel that spending a huge chunk of time in a car on a daily basis lowers my quality of life. We could ride our bikes in town up there, but we also moved every spring and fall, into and out of the Airstream, in the attempt to stretch our income and make hay for the future while the sun shined.
Now we're house hunting and I'm back to thinking the Airstream might be a good long term home, especially if we get a significant amount of snow next winter and we can bury it, igloo style. What we can afford is a small assortment of run down structures that might be better served to be flattened and then start over again. The rest is a collection of homes that will probably be bought by out of towners seeking their x number property for rental purposes or the occasional visit to our economically disheartened town. Here, it's not as extreme as the market in Jackson, where 10,000 square feet homes often sit empty, except for their caretakers and the property management workers who keep them ready for their rare use, while the imported Mexican workers and east coast gap year kids live crammed many to a house. There, we were high on the hog in our 20' travel trailer compared to our raft guide friends who lived in the raft stacks at the boat house.
In response to the housing crisis in Jackson, one letter to the editor suggested that those people who can't afford to live in Jackson should leave. This comment fails to consider that without those low wage workers who stay despite the financial struggle - because they love the area as much as you do, dear snob - who will take care of your children, home, feed you, serve you? A 'resort' community needs its teachers (probably the most undervalued profession) and trash collectors as much as it needs its entrepreneurs, doctors and Fortune 500 CEOs. But the real estate market does not reflect this truth in mountain towns, or indeed in many places of beauty, where somehow it's a privilege to live there.
I can't offer a solution to this sad state of economic imbalance that really just reflects the state of our nation, which has become a land of the have nots and have a lots, with the bulk of us struggling along in between. I do know that in my own particular experience, learning to want and need less has increased my happiness. The trade off to living simply is that you can live more and work less, which is our particular dream. Although we hope to own a home, what we seek and what we'll get will probably look less like the average American home and more like a stationary version of the Airstream, with a working bath tub, of course. We won't trade off on quality of life, but rather we will trade off the part of the American that means big, bigger, biggest.
We've started to house shop and so far that dream place hasn't revealed itself, at least not in the price range we can afford. Our town shares similar economic circumstances to that of many a resort town in the US - high prices in the real estate market due to the large number of vacation homes and rentals, the desirable land priced high at over $100,000 an acre, and a job market that mainly consists of service oriented positions - and yet the appeal of living here still seems to outweigh the challenges. Here you can ski, mountain bike, hike, run the river, etc, and enjoy the mountains, gorge, mesa, forest, etc, while eating delectable food in the company of a diverse range of people who speak myriad languages, all in this small town with its expansive atmosphere.
Jackson had almost as much appeal, and certainly a better wage, but there didn't appear to be a way to stay long term that included home ownership, not when affordable housing means a two bedroom condo that costs $300,000, or the commute from the suburbs is either 45 minutes away and/or over a 10,000 feet pass with 10% grades. Although the American psyche might have the daily commute hard wired into it, I feel that spending a huge chunk of time in a car on a daily basis lowers my quality of life. We could ride our bikes in town up there, but we also moved every spring and fall, into and out of the Airstream, in the attempt to stretch our income and make hay for the future while the sun shined.
Now we're house hunting and I'm back to thinking the Airstream might be a good long term home, especially if we get a significant amount of snow next winter and we can bury it, igloo style. What we can afford is a small assortment of run down structures that might be better served to be flattened and then start over again. The rest is a collection of homes that will probably be bought by out of towners seeking their x number property for rental purposes or the occasional visit to our economically disheartened town. Here, it's not as extreme as the market in Jackson, where 10,000 square feet homes often sit empty, except for their caretakers and the property management workers who keep them ready for their rare use, while the imported Mexican workers and east coast gap year kids live crammed many to a house. There, we were high on the hog in our 20' travel trailer compared to our raft guide friends who lived in the raft stacks at the boat house.
I can't offer a solution to this sad state of economic imbalance that really just reflects the state of our nation, which has become a land of the have nots and have a lots, with the bulk of us struggling along in between. I do know that in my own particular experience, learning to want and need less has increased my happiness. The trade off to living simply is that you can live more and work less, which is our particular dream. Although we hope to own a home, what we seek and what we'll get will probably look less like the average American home and more like a stationary version of the Airstream, with a working bath tub, of course. We won't trade off on quality of life, but rather we will trade off the part of the American that means big, bigger, biggest.
Monday, April 13, 2015
How to be an adult
The lessons I learned on how to be an adult must have been very subtle, delivered so quiet and unobtrusive that I didn't even notice I learned them. I'm generally certain I've mastered some of the basics: how to treat others as I'd like to be treated (except for when I'm feeling vulnerable or when I'm cursing slow or erratic drivers from behind the not opaque enough windows of my car with out of state plates), how to take pride in a job well done (thanks worker bee ancestors and to my hard working parents), and the necessity of love, play and laughter for a life well lived. Household chores, changing a flat tire, building a fire, and filling out a 1040ez, no problem. It's some of those other skills in the realm of being a financially responsible adult, such as buying a home or ridding myself of a college debt that feels like a boulder sized ball and chain, that make me want to curl up fetal and suck my thumb.
Did you learn any of those skills essential to staying on the surface of our American economy from family, community or your school? Having taken an unofficial survey amongst my peers I will guess that you did not learn how to pay your taxes, handle a mortgage, make an informed decision about taking on debt, or even handle the more mundane task of balancing your budget: rent, food, bills, etc. If you can't perform the tasks that are required of a person aka an autonomous adult, does that mean you're simply a child, pretending to be a grown up?
Don't get me wrong, quite a few of the habits and attitudes common to the average concept of the American adult appear grim and undesirable to me. Work 40+ hours a week, with your only time off through the year a two week vacation from which you return to work more exhausted than before, all the while trading your time for an existence you may or may not like. Rack up debt going to college, co-own an oversized house with the bank, and buy things you probably don't need or even really want with credit cards that come to rule you. I've tried some of these habits and they don't suit me.
And now my man and I intend to buy a house. Amongst the price range we can afford is a meager assortment of run down and poorly built abodes. My husband gets to be the on paper provider because my college debt is just debt. I'm so very grateful that I was fortunate enough to continue my education beyond high school. I regret, however, the lack of foresight that given my lifestyle choices, I doubled the debt from my first year of college alone by ignoring it. A liberal arts degree doesn't bestow a whole lot of economic bang for the buck to pay that debt back. Thankfully, a massage therapy certification and license does.
So my hard working high school graduate husband will be our loan holder, and because of my college loans I'll pay rent and help renovate whatever foreclosure or for sale by owner we can afford. We won't purchase beyond our means - we strive to rid ourselves of credit card debt and I scheme how to pay for a college education I haven't yet figured a use for - our goals are clear. Be fiscally responsible, learn how to do that in the ways to which we currently lack knowledge, and continue to find the balance of work and the rest of life. To that end this bookworm has gathered materials from the library on how to manage money, buy a house and get out of debt. Because I believe that's what an adult does: accepts her ignorance, her frustrations, but doesn't hold a grudge, and then sets out to change her circumstances.
Did you learn any of those skills essential to staying on the surface of our American economy from family, community or your school? Having taken an unofficial survey amongst my peers I will guess that you did not learn how to pay your taxes, handle a mortgage, make an informed decision about taking on debt, or even handle the more mundane task of balancing your budget: rent, food, bills, etc. If you can't perform the tasks that are required of a person aka an autonomous adult, does that mean you're simply a child, pretending to be a grown up?
Don't get me wrong, quite a few of the habits and attitudes common to the average concept of the American adult appear grim and undesirable to me. Work 40+ hours a week, with your only time off through the year a two week vacation from which you return to work more exhausted than before, all the while trading your time for an existence you may or may not like. Rack up debt going to college, co-own an oversized house with the bank, and buy things you probably don't need or even really want with credit cards that come to rule you. I've tried some of these habits and they don't suit me.
And now my man and I intend to buy a house. Amongst the price range we can afford is a meager assortment of run down and poorly built abodes. My husband gets to be the on paper provider because my college debt is just debt. I'm so very grateful that I was fortunate enough to continue my education beyond high school. I regret, however, the lack of foresight that given my lifestyle choices, I doubled the debt from my first year of college alone by ignoring it. A liberal arts degree doesn't bestow a whole lot of economic bang for the buck to pay that debt back. Thankfully, a massage therapy certification and license does.
So my hard working high school graduate husband will be our loan holder, and because of my college loans I'll pay rent and help renovate whatever foreclosure or for sale by owner we can afford. We won't purchase beyond our means - we strive to rid ourselves of credit card debt and I scheme how to pay for a college education I haven't yet figured a use for - our goals are clear. Be fiscally responsible, learn how to do that in the ways to which we currently lack knowledge, and continue to find the balance of work and the rest of life. To that end this bookworm has gathered materials from the library on how to manage money, buy a house and get out of debt. Because I believe that's what an adult does: accepts her ignorance, her frustrations, but doesn't hold a grudge, and then sets out to change her circumstances.
Thursday, April 9, 2015
Seasonal changes
For my husband, myself and many of our contemporaries here in this northern New Mexico town - along with people in mountain communities across the northern hemisphere - it's a time of seasonal change that ends with winter and invites in summer. Except there's spring in between, which is both a magical period when buds form and explode into a riot of new leaves or delicate pink and ivory blossoms, grass emerges from ground that already longs for snow or rain, birds chorus in a riot of mate or fight songs, and then there are the maddening spring winds that scour the earth and raise dust clouds up and over and into you.
I wake this morning with grit lodged in the corner of my eyes; yesterday I dared to ride the old dirt road a couple miles east of our house, which has been closed to vehicles to become a trail for pedestrians and mountain bikers. I waited too long to leave the house, meandering from one project to another, so that by the time I peddled from road to roundabout to dirt access to trail it was afternoon and the winds had dropped their playful act and gusted in earnest. The air current wasn't so bad when I rode through the protected juniper and pinon, and much of that "Talpa traverse" follows the natural curve of the earth across the foothills of the Sangre de Cristo, and I had more tailwind riding uphill than otherwise. The sky burned blue overhead, granite sparkled under my tires, and my improved skill set thrilled me when I was able to ride sections of the single track that had in years previous made my stomach turn over with fear.
The return ride, however, proves that the wind dominates the landscape: columns of dust rise high and turn the sky cafe au lait, tumbleweeds skitter across the road, and the decline of the slope is not enough to keep me in a higher gear as I pedal against the buffeting force. I want to hide in the sagebrush, call a cab, will myself arrived - which is what I do. Then I'm grateful to hide from the elements, and so very glad for body and mind that I chose to ride my bike, despite the challenges of the return.
It's essential to stay active when the seasons shift. All those lovely days with no particular commitments, since the next season's work hasn't yet appeared. For me, though, I'm not really much a part of either camp these days - no 9 to 5 job, nominal time spent teaching skiing last winter, about that much time on the river ahead of me - I just work when there's work. It would be easy to slump into the couch, watch TV and movies, grow plump with snacks, forget about biking and devolve into less than slothhood.
Instead, I'm riding my bike, getting on the river when I can, and working to renovate the 1962 Airstream I'm lucky enough to own. We have chosen to stay here in our unique New Mexico town for the summer and beyond, instead of returning to Jackson and diving deep into the frantic schedule that is the reality of the seasonal worker in that resort town. We have started to desire following the seasons without having to move from Airstream to cramped apartment and repeat.
Seasonal shifts and the desire to change the trajectory of our lives, from sort of vagabonds to householders who are capable of both rooting down and being able to spring into experiencing other places without having to start over again and again, without that monthly storage fee as a tether. This transitional period is even more exciting and bigger a shift than usual. We won't get blown off course by the winds, and this off season will be a great period of deepening connection and an opening to expansiveness.
I wake this morning with grit lodged in the corner of my eyes; yesterday I dared to ride the old dirt road a couple miles east of our house, which has been closed to vehicles to become a trail for pedestrians and mountain bikers. I waited too long to leave the house, meandering from one project to another, so that by the time I peddled from road to roundabout to dirt access to trail it was afternoon and the winds had dropped their playful act and gusted in earnest. The air current wasn't so bad when I rode through the protected juniper and pinon, and much of that "Talpa traverse" follows the natural curve of the earth across the foothills of the Sangre de Cristo, and I had more tailwind riding uphill than otherwise. The sky burned blue overhead, granite sparkled under my tires, and my improved skill set thrilled me when I was able to ride sections of the single track that had in years previous made my stomach turn over with fear.
The return ride, however, proves that the wind dominates the landscape: columns of dust rise high and turn the sky cafe au lait, tumbleweeds skitter across the road, and the decline of the slope is not enough to keep me in a higher gear as I pedal against the buffeting force. I want to hide in the sagebrush, call a cab, will myself arrived - which is what I do. Then I'm grateful to hide from the elements, and so very glad for body and mind that I chose to ride my bike, despite the challenges of the return.
It's essential to stay active when the seasons shift. All those lovely days with no particular commitments, since the next season's work hasn't yet appeared. For me, though, I'm not really much a part of either camp these days - no 9 to 5 job, nominal time spent teaching skiing last winter, about that much time on the river ahead of me - I just work when there's work. It would be easy to slump into the couch, watch TV and movies, grow plump with snacks, forget about biking and devolve into less than slothhood.
Instead, I'm riding my bike, getting on the river when I can, and working to renovate the 1962 Airstream I'm lucky enough to own. We have chosen to stay here in our unique New Mexico town for the summer and beyond, instead of returning to Jackson and diving deep into the frantic schedule that is the reality of the seasonal worker in that resort town. We have started to desire following the seasons without having to move from Airstream to cramped apartment and repeat.
Seasonal shifts and the desire to change the trajectory of our lives, from sort of vagabonds to householders who are capable of both rooting down and being able to spring into experiencing other places without having to start over again and again, without that monthly storage fee as a tether. This transitional period is even more exciting and bigger a shift than usual. We won't get blown off course by the winds, and this off season will be a great period of deepening connection and an opening to expansiveness.
Monday, March 30, 2015
Whitefeather
During the 15 years that have passed since I first showed a student how to make pizza and french fries with their skis, I've taught every winter but one in some capacity. From full time to part time, from children as young as "almost three" to adults in their 70s, in communication via French, Spanglish and with gestures, on mountains near Taos, New Mexico, Wanaka, New Zealand and Jackson, Wyoming, and on beginner terrain and steep slopes to students with confidence and without. Some seasons I thought I'd turn teaching into a career - but in the last five years or so the refrain has been "I'll just do it this one last season" - and now I think I may have truly taught my last lesson.
Whitefeather is the name of the easiest way down the mountain at Taos Ski Valley, and it's the same run I graduated to on my second day ever skiing. The white feather has been a symbol of both cowardice and courage over the centuries and I fear it was named for the insult. However, to make your way down its three miles or so, from the point of view of the beginner, is truly an act of courage.
I love how a shifted perspective thrills me these days when I launch a small rock, even though I distinctly remember a challenging Whitefeather when I first skied it: steep, narrow and interminable. I recall the sensation when I ski down that run with my new students, an empathic, almost visceral memory of the excitement and nervousness, the failures and victories of successful turns, stops and collision aversion. When I teach new students, I appreciate where I have come from in my own learning journey as a skier, and it renews my hope that not all fears are here to stay.
The lesson I taught last week was neither abject failure or crowning glory to send me running or allow me to rest on albeit minimal laurels. What I saw that made me no longer wish to teach skiing is the generosity with which I nurture and encourage others, while withholding such positive sustenance from my own creativity. This is the missing piece that I've hoped to locate so I can finish the books I've started, rekindle the blog I barely gave a chance, or simply have a regular practice that I share with others.
This teenage girl had her first lesson the day before and finished the day on Strawberry Hill. It stands as a gate through which the beginner will ideally pass to ensure basic skills to ski the mountain with safety and enjoyment. Her fear had her gripped, and though she could stop and turn, her mind continually sabotaged her as she imagined one small disaster after another. She would make these tight turns that whipped her into increased speed and rather than take the risk to finish the turn, she'd sit down. When she could finish the turn, she'd slow down and instantly she'd look comfortable on her skis.
I played the coach and cheerleader, asking her to repeat "I can do it!" when she froze. I suggested that she visualize her way through the turn and to direct her gaze - "your whole head, not just your eyes" - to where she wanted to go, not to the ground, which leads to falling toward it. I coaxed, applauded and demonstrated how to create a succession of linked turns to find the fun in fluidity and speed control.
The day's goal had been to ski down TSV's other green run, which is in an entirely other league of "easy way down." Let's call it aqua or turquoise on the difficulty scale, since if you compared it to the terrain on almost any other mountain it would be designated blue or intermediate. We went for Whitefeather as the happy medium and she made it down, eventually. No injuries, no falls except the times when she dropped down to the safety of the snow. One turn at a time, she skied back to the bottom.
I envied the coaching I gave her. That's the piece that's been missing in my writing. I always felt goaded to be a better skier for the challenge in attempting new skills and terrain, and because I wanted to ski with my friends. I haven't found this in my own writing yet, but I'm on the hunt to find it within myself and nurture it into a fierce determination the likes of which I've known in skiing, travel, etc but never had for my writing practice. It's time to get out the pom poms, follow writers I admire down the metaphorical slopes, and wear my crown of white feathers with confidence and pride.
Whitefeather is the name of the easiest way down the mountain at Taos Ski Valley, and it's the same run I graduated to on my second day ever skiing. The white feather has been a symbol of both cowardice and courage over the centuries and I fear it was named for the insult. However, to make your way down its three miles or so, from the point of view of the beginner, is truly an act of courage.
I love how a shifted perspective thrills me these days when I launch a small rock, even though I distinctly remember a challenging Whitefeather when I first skied it: steep, narrow and interminable. I recall the sensation when I ski down that run with my new students, an empathic, almost visceral memory of the excitement and nervousness, the failures and victories of successful turns, stops and collision aversion. When I teach new students, I appreciate where I have come from in my own learning journey as a skier, and it renews my hope that not all fears are here to stay.
The lesson I taught last week was neither abject failure or crowning glory to send me running or allow me to rest on albeit minimal laurels. What I saw that made me no longer wish to teach skiing is the generosity with which I nurture and encourage others, while withholding such positive sustenance from my own creativity. This is the missing piece that I've hoped to locate so I can finish the books I've started, rekindle the blog I barely gave a chance, or simply have a regular practice that I share with others.
This teenage girl had her first lesson the day before and finished the day on Strawberry Hill. It stands as a gate through which the beginner will ideally pass to ensure basic skills to ski the mountain with safety and enjoyment. Her fear had her gripped, and though she could stop and turn, her mind continually sabotaged her as she imagined one small disaster after another. She would make these tight turns that whipped her into increased speed and rather than take the risk to finish the turn, she'd sit down. When she could finish the turn, she'd slow down and instantly she'd look comfortable on her skis.
I played the coach and cheerleader, asking her to repeat "I can do it!" when she froze. I suggested that she visualize her way through the turn and to direct her gaze - "your whole head, not just your eyes" - to where she wanted to go, not to the ground, which leads to falling toward it. I coaxed, applauded and demonstrated how to create a succession of linked turns to find the fun in fluidity and speed control.
The day's goal had been to ski down TSV's other green run, which is in an entirely other league of "easy way down." Let's call it aqua or turquoise on the difficulty scale, since if you compared it to the terrain on almost any other mountain it would be designated blue or intermediate. We went for Whitefeather as the happy medium and she made it down, eventually. No injuries, no falls except the times when she dropped down to the safety of the snow. One turn at a time, she skied back to the bottom.
I envied the coaching I gave her. That's the piece that's been missing in my writing. I always felt goaded to be a better skier for the challenge in attempting new skills and terrain, and because I wanted to ski with my friends. I haven't found this in my own writing yet, but I'm on the hunt to find it within myself and nurture it into a fierce determination the likes of which I've known in skiing, travel, etc but never had for my writing practice. It's time to get out the pom poms, follow writers I admire down the metaphorical slopes, and wear my crown of white feathers with confidence and pride.
Friday, March 27, 2015
Fail or succeed?
I learned how to ski as an adult, and learned to teach at the same time. Hired by the supervisor at the kid's ski school to help inside with parents and kiddos, fit skis and boots, and to clean the building after hours, it was with the understanding that if I tried skiing and liked it I'd be added to the roster of instructors. Not the typical route to become a skier or to teach it, but it just so happened that my own first day of skiing opened something wide in my mind and body and in a moment I became hooked.
I fell, oh how many times did I fall that day. Standing or walking in my secondhand ski boots, which are slippery and cumbersome footwear. In initial attempts to put on my skis I'd try to step into the binding, the ski would shy away and I'd splat onto the snow. I'd fall with the introduction of every new skill: sliding the skis into a triangle shape to stop, side step or herringbone walk, in turns - especially to the right - and traverses, pretty much a fall on average every 5-10 minutes. During my 4 hour intro lesson, I flopped to the ground as if I were boneless chicken, the sun blazed over head so I steamed through my clothes, the boots pinched my ankles, my rump and other parts a patchwork black and blue, and my emotions ran the gamut from thrilled to terrified.
A more sensible person might have conceded that she lacked some of the essential qualities of a skier - balance, coordination and grace - but I have rarely been identified as a sensible person.
I went back for more the next day, tired, bruised and hung over from celebrating the thrilling victory of having survived my first day of skiing. The entire class progressed beyond the Strawberry Hill beginner slope, though I know I was advanced with some reservations. We skied over to the #1 chair lift, which brought us to the main base area and a sign I'll paraphrase which has welcomed folk to Taos Ski Valley for decades: although the expert terrain, which is all you can see from here, is the better part of the mountain, TSV also has some fun and friendly beginner and intermediate terrain. So don't be scared. Maybe just a little.
I plonked my sore derriere into the chair lift and my heart clamored to jump out of my body via my throat. Ahead of me the mountain loomed larger and steeper as we ascended. There were people actually skiing below us, making more turns than I considered possible. I expected one or all of them to suddenly free fall into oblivion, and assured myself I'd never ski said terrain.
Short story told long: I survived my first green run aka "easiest way down" and from then on skiing often reigned over the known universe. I spent the rest of the winter guiding 3 year olds towards the ski life, and though it might have looked more like babysitting than coaching, I did bring my growing passion and knowledge of skiing to those kiddos, along with snow sculpture, hot chocolate and find-the-missing-mitten games.
Every free moment I had I slid down the mountain with ever increasing speed and daring, even if the skills were slower to arrive. Successes were achieved: first intermediate, advanced, then expert terrain runs, skiing in trees, through bumps, my first hike, race and stitches. Yes, I failed on occasion, but loved the exquisite sensation to be found in gliding over snow amongst the beauty of the southern Rockies. Minor crashes and injuries spiced the experience.
I spoke about failure in my previous post, and I realize that success and failure are inextricable and interdependent. I can achieve my goals only if I am willing to fail, and the avoidance of failure is in direct correlation to my ability to succeed. If I relinquish my attachment to the outcome of my endeavours, just as I did when I learned to ski, eventually I can succeed in almost anything I try, and love the times when I fail.
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Wednesday, March 25, 2015
Failing is fun
After posting my last blog entry is August of last year - that's three seasons and eight months ago - I definitely considered Words and other adventures a failure. I started strong: 12 posts in June, 11 in July, and then I crashed to a halt with August's single post bemoaning the 16 days since I'd last shared an online confession. The months thereafter summed up... nothing, nada, rien, zilch, a fat zero. My determination, dedication and confidence fell into a huge sinkhole and I got lost inside its cavernous maw and didn't emerge until spring returned, goaded on, as always, by words.
Words clamoring to be shared, to exist somewhere removed from the inside of my too noisy brain, words that grow louder the more I dig my heels in and try to placate them, uhm, me, with any and every excuse. I will write later after I complete the list of chores a mile long, or in the morning when I'm not so tired, some day when I find a topic that's worthy. Words don't care about all that - they just ask me to define who I am, what I stand for, what I love, dream of, despair over, fear - so long as what I speak onto the page is authentic, radical, wholly an expression of me. No big deal, words.
This is the essence of creativity: it doesn't care that you are blocked, processing, ashamed, busy, afraid, or trying to lead a more serious life. As a part of a vast network of creation, our very nature is to create, whether it's in accord with a biological imperative or any other imperative that drives us. If we ignore this part of our self, we tend to suffer. A writer who doesn't write is a person with a head filled and spilled over with words.
I must not abstain from writing, from creating, in order to avoid failure. Mistakes, false starts, speed humps, potholes, detours and other obstacles line the road I travel, but in fact these forms of failure are in alignment with the creative process. The phrase "if at first you don't succeed..." does not end with give up. But it seems to me that in this area of my life, unlike in other parts, I have given up. Or had. I guess we'll just have to see.
For now, I acknowledge that failing is fun. Failing means an open door to new possibilities, perspectives, and actions. Failing means I can toss out what doesn't work and start renewed. As I acknowledge my failure, I can move on, let go, transform my experiment into something that works for me. So: more posts, keep it short, be okay that not every post is brilliant, and above all, have fun.
Words clamoring to be shared, to exist somewhere removed from the inside of my too noisy brain, words that grow louder the more I dig my heels in and try to placate them, uhm, me, with any and every excuse. I will write later after I complete the list of chores a mile long, or in the morning when I'm not so tired, some day when I find a topic that's worthy. Words don't care about all that - they just ask me to define who I am, what I stand for, what I love, dream of, despair over, fear - so long as what I speak onto the page is authentic, radical, wholly an expression of me. No big deal, words.
This is the essence of creativity: it doesn't care that you are blocked, processing, ashamed, busy, afraid, or trying to lead a more serious life. As a part of a vast network of creation, our very nature is to create, whether it's in accord with a biological imperative or any other imperative that drives us. If we ignore this part of our self, we tend to suffer. A writer who doesn't write is a person with a head filled and spilled over with words.
I must not abstain from writing, from creating, in order to avoid failure. Mistakes, false starts, speed humps, potholes, detours and other obstacles line the road I travel, but in fact these forms of failure are in alignment with the creative process. The phrase "if at first you don't succeed..." does not end with give up. But it seems to me that in this area of my life, unlike in other parts, I have given up. Or had. I guess we'll just have to see.
For now, I acknowledge that failing is fun. Failing means an open door to new possibilities, perspectives, and actions. Failing means I can toss out what doesn't work and start renewed. As I acknowledge my failure, I can move on, let go, transform my experiment into something that works for me. So: more posts, keep it short, be okay that not every post is brilliant, and above all, have fun.
"Try again. Fail again. Fail better."
-- Samuel Beckett
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